It’s Good to be Home

First of all, my apologies for not blogging for a while- it’s just been a busy last couple of weeks getting ready for finals and such. Which brings me to reason number 1 as to why it’s so good to be home: no school work for a solid 4 weeks.

No more Religious Text quizzes, no more Consumer Behavior papers and my personal favorite- no more World Views tests. For the next 4 weeks, I don’t have to do anything but lay in bed and eat food. Ahh the life we live!

Next, I get to see my family and friends for more than just a long weekend or a spontaneous overnight visit to campus. Although, like everyone says, Bonaventure is our second home, it’s still good to see the people I spent the first 18 years of my life with. By the way, the Hammerl Family is probably the coolest family you’ll ever meet. Plus, I will always be a Buffalo girl at heart, I love my city!

Now on to the little things- I never thought I’d say this, but I now actually enjoy filling the dishwasher. Let me explain. For the past two years of my life at Bonas in my apartment last year and in my house this year, we have not had the luxury of having a dishwasher. This means watching the sink fill to the very brim with dirty dishes until eventually hand washing every plate with God knows what splattered all over them. So when I’m home, I feel a sense of satisfaction when I can just throw my dishes into the dishwasher after using them. Weird? I know.

Now let’s talk about the laundry situation. At my house at school, I have to pay three dollars in quarters just to wash and dry a single load of laundry. However, being the poor college student that I am, I usually just drive all my laundry to campus and do it all at one of my friends’ apartments. This is usually a hassle for both myself and my friends. However, when I’m home, I can do as much laundry as I want without spending a single dollar. As you can imagine, I do laundry at home like it’s my job. Forgot to wash that one single t-shirt? Throw her in by herself. Wore that pair of jeans for an hour? Toss her in and get that fresh, clean, warm feeling for the next time you wear them for a second. Because, why not?

Lastly, what kind of “it’s good to be home” blog post would this be if I didn’t talk about food? At school, I eat about four things: Turkey sandwiches, Mac n Cheese, Spaghetti, and bagels. I usually don’t have the time/money to make anything else for myself. However, when I’m home, it’s like a smorgasbord of food every day. And the best part is I don’t have to worry about finishing something because when it’s gone, my parents will just buy more! How great is that? I love it.

Of course, being home for the holidays means more than just taking advantage of the dishwasher, laundry machine, and kitchen cabinets, but these things are definitely an added bonus. Thanks mom and dad for all that you do when I come home for Christmas break, you guys are the best!

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A Letter to My 14 Year-Old Self

Dear Little Julia,

Dear God do I have some wise words to share with you. But first, just to clarify something, you’re so not as tough as you think you are. So stop acting it. You are a young, naïve, and fragile pre-teen- it’s OK to break down your walls a little and let people see your soft side! And it’s important to remember that no one should ever be allowed to make you feel like less of a person when you do.

Now, on the topic of “acting tough,” let’s discuss how you shouldn’t ever wear anything that you have in your closet right now- like ever again. Those big bulky DC shoes? Yeah throw those suckers in the trash because you look like a clown. That super tight hot pink t-shirt you bought from Hot Topic? Trash. And don’t even get me started on those blood red tight skinny jeans. Ugh. The only thing I will applaud you on was your stellar pink hair. Although it was a little aggressive for a 14 year-old, it was still pretty cool. Also black nails are still cool, even though they’re now more chic and less punk.

Moving on. Here is a list of six important lessons I have learned over the past six years. Buckle up.

  1. It’s so typical of me to talk about this, but it has to be said. You know that boy who you thought you loved and couldn’t live without? Well, turns out he was never worth even a second of your time. You are the prize and any boy who doesn’t make you feel like that is a loser. Also, remember that you are young! Although it’s tough with all those raging hormones and crap, try to focus on yourself- you deserve it! Focus on your school work, get those good grades and become a strong and independent woman! You don’t need no man!
  2. Remember all of those hours you spent worrying about how all the other kids at school thought of you? Remember how you didn’t join those clubs and participate in those activities because you were afraid you would be seen as “un-cool”? Big mistake! The people who stand out and who aren’t afraid to go against the crowd usually end up becoming the most successful. Being popular and well-liked is always a good feeling, but it’s not the most important thing you should focus on.
  3. So you’ve just begun your freshmen year of high-school and grades don’t really matter that much yet, right? WRONG. The minute you step into high-school you’ve started on your journey towards getting accepted into college. Those math grades actually do matter and that AP class you turned down could have actually saved you a lot of time and money in the future. Stay focused in school and work on getting the best grades possible to keep your GPA up. (If you didn’t almost fail 9th grade algebra you probably would have gotten a better scholarship to Bonaventure and you wouldn’t be in so much student debt. Just sayin).
  4. Listen to your mother. She is right about LITERALLY everything. You may think that most of the time she’s working against you, but in actuality she’s just trying to help you out. Also, just give up on ever trying hiding anything from her because she will find out. Every time. Guaranteed.
  5. Talk to people. A lot of people. Just because someone isn’t on the same sports team as you or doesn’t join the same clubs you do, doesn’t mean you can’t be friends. It’s good to have variety in your life, otherwise it gets boring.
  6. Lastly, don’t be afraid to be yourself! Why would you waste any time pretending to be someone else? The sooner you figure that out, the better. If the friends you have right now don’t appreciate you the way you were born then ditch those bitches and find a better friend group. Simple as that.

In conclusion, little Julia, keep your head up because life does actually get better. Everyone is going through a rough time at 14. You’re not the only one. Fight your way through those mean boys and evil girls. Embrace the fact that your body is currently being pumped with hormones and take control of it. You are a strong girl; you can do this! Also, for the love of God develop a new fashion sense.

Love your older and much prettier self,

Older  Julia